When is separation/break-up the hardest?
Is separation/break-up the hardest at the beginning, or at the end?
Separation or breaking up is “known” to be the hardest the first few weeks/months or even the first year--depending on how deep the relationship was-- we feel disoriented and at "loose ends" in our lives because everything has just been turned upside down. And after the mourning and sadness, we tend to adjust and move on with our lives.
But isn't separation really the hardest when memories get into the picture? when certain situations, activities, or certain places remind us of things that we used to have/do together?
Separation or breaking up is “known” to be the hardest the first few weeks/months or even the first year--depending on how deep the relationship was-- we feel disoriented and at "loose ends" in our lives because everything has just been turned upside down. And after the mourning and sadness, we tend to adjust and move on with our lives.
But isn't separation really the hardest when memories get into the picture? when certain situations, activities, or certain places remind us of things that we used to have/do together?
posted by BiteKitty @ 8:10 PM
2 Comments:
At 10:22 PM,
Anonymous said…
Interesting...But couldn't you argue that memories are there beginning and end and are the cause for the pain and mourning, but at the same time are also the cause for getting over it. Just some food for thought, but glad to see ya bloggin again :)
At 11:33 AM,
BiteKitty said…
unless its an abusive relationship :), then yes memories do help you get over it completely.
at the beginning we're too busy being sad over it and trying to orient the "disoriented" that memory doesnt really hit us as hard as it does later on.
but then when all u've got is a memory, it does hurt. dont you think :)
you could also argue that a memory is an experience, it's what keeps us alive, makes us smile sometimes. But also it's what makes us cry other times.
im not contradicting or arguying , its just some food for the thought as well :)
ps: may be next time u'd use initials ? :)
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