Expecting too high, aren't we?
As I was reading a friend's blog I realized I haven't blogged for over 2 months ! Dang! lol anyways
so I was tossing and turning trying to sleep(as usual),when I started reflecting on what happened through the day,and was thinking:
Why do we set high expectations for people without getting to know them well enough, then simply blame them for not falling within the expected level?
shouldn't we start low? And build up our set of expectations as we get to know the person?
we usually end up getting disappointed and start blabbing and accusing them for not acting like we wanted them to but we never blame ourselves....Couldn't it just be our fault! And it most probably is ..
Or... Why do some people think others can read their minds? And say "well, u should've known so!" what in the world is "You should've known so" ? I know im not a mind reader, and I'd like for the person to be straight forward and just say what they expect ! Don't you?
What's this, like a mind game or something !
I bet men can relate to this more than women :)
bonne nuit.
so I was tossing and turning trying to sleep(as usual),when I started reflecting on what happened through the day,and was thinking:
Why do we set high expectations for people without getting to know them well enough, then simply blame them for not falling within the expected level?
shouldn't we start low? And build up our set of expectations as we get to know the person?
we usually end up getting disappointed and start blabbing and accusing them for not acting like we wanted them to but we never blame ourselves....Couldn't it just be our fault! And it most probably is ..
Or... Why do some people think others can read their minds? And say "well, u should've known so!" what in the world is "You should've known so" ? I know im not a mind reader, and I'd like for the person to be straight forward and just say what they expect ! Don't you?
What's this, like a mind game or something !
I bet men can relate to this more than women :)
bonne nuit.
posted by BiteKitty @ 12:23 AM
3 Comments:
At 12:18 AM,
Anonymous said…
I don't think it's so much high expectations as it is high hopes. We HOPE people turn out the way we want them to, we HOPE they do the things we want them to do, we HOPE that everything works out the way we want it to, reality is there's a reason it's called hope and not reality.
At 7:29 AM,
Anonymous said…
I love your way of thinking on the "mind reader part" ten thumps up :), thinking like a man. Ouch, I'm offending all the feminine movement gals. well, can't keep every body happy all the time. WE ARE HUMAN. i think.
And that's exactly what I mean, WE CAN'T... that being said, it's not the expectations nor is it the high hopes, it is.. human nature. We all like to think we are good judges of character, we like to know that in most cases you can look at a person and think you click, or not, you can understand one another with out saying a ward. that's you gut instinct.
That doesn't mean that they will be all that all the time. They are human, they have bad days, they have circumstances, they issues, they make mistakes. should that be the end? Did he or she now fell from your expected level, are they now not worthy of your time?
No........ that just makes them human, giving up is easy to do, we should not give up so easy, if parents gave up every time they felt the other fell outside the expected level, or friends gave up on their friends, teachers gave up on students, etc., etc., etc.
Their would be no me or you, no friends, no education, just a bunch of lonely, uneducated creatures walking the earth with no one to turn to.
Don't give up so easy, take the time to sit with the person you care or once cared about, till the FALLING that is, and discuss what you expected, what they expect, work it out.
Their most defiantly was caring in the first place other wise neither one would have expected the a thing from the other.
Bon Jour.
At 11:50 AM,
BiteKitty said…
definitely, it is a Human nature, or so i beleive as well :). but as time goes you tend to adapt to how people around you are. There's so much influence that at some point you're going to find yourself blaming others for not doing what you expect them to do; or just have no expectations of anybody whatsoever.
If we turn around and look at ourselves we'll find that we're falling waaaaaaaay behind other people's expectations, but they haven't give up on us just yet! i could just write down an endless list of people that haven't given up on me:)
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